Nowadays everyone just has sex..it becomes as normal as kissing, or if you are horny..ill just take care of that need..What's happened is that in this world physical connection is often mistaken for emotional closeness, waiting to have sex until marriage is becoming a rare but sacred commitment. Many see this principle as outdated, but what if it’s actually a divine design meant to protect, empower, and deepen our relationships?
The Sacred Nature of Intimacy
Sex is not just a physical act it’s a deeply spiritual, emotional, and psychological experience. Within the covenant of marriage, sexual intimacy becomes a sacred expression of love. It’s a bonding experience rooted in trust, mutual respect, and an eternal commitment.
The Apostle Paul taught in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20:
"Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit...? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies."
By waiting until marriage, couples show not only obedience to divine counsel but also profound respect for themselves and their partner. They choose to build a foundation of trust rather than lust, intimacy rather than infatuation, and commitment over convenience.
Psychological and Emotional Impacts of Premature Intimacy
Many people confuse sexual chemistry with love. Psychologists explain that sexual activity releases powerful chemicals like oxytocin (the bonding hormone), dopamine (the pleasure chemical), and endorphins (natural mood boosters). These chemicals can create a false sense of attachment or emotional closeness that masks incompatibility or lack of genuine connection.
As Dr. Joe Beam, relationship expert and founder of Marriage Helper, explains:
“When sex comes before deep emotional and spiritual connection, couples are more likely to ignore red flags and rush into relationships based on feelings instead of values.”
Over time, this confusion can lead to emotional distress, feelings of being used, trust issues, and even depression when the relationship ends. It can be heartbreaking to realize that what felt like love was merely a neurochemical reaction.
Biological Insights: What Happens in the Brain
When two people have sex, the brain floods with oxytocin and vasopressin, which are chemicals designed to promote bonding and trust. These are the same hormones released during childbirth and breastfeeding, which speaks to how deeply wired our bodies are to form lasting attachments through physical intimacy.
But here’s the issue: when bonding is formed outside of trust, safety, and commitment, it creates confusion. Our bodies bond, but our souls are unprotected. This is why many people feel “soul-tied” or emotionally entangled long after the physical relationship has ended.
What the Experts Say
Dr. Meg Meeker, pediatrician and author, writes:
“Sexual activity outside of a committed, loving relationship brings more harm than happiness. It often leads to confusion, guilt, and low self-worth, especially for young people trying to find lasting love.”
Dr. Les Parrott, psychologist and marriage expert, also says:
“Couples who wait until marriage report higher satisfaction in their relationship and better communication. The reason is simple they built their love on a foundation of values, not impulses.”
The Blessings of Waiting
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Stronger Trust: You know your love isn’t based on physical attraction alone.
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Spiritual Confidence: You feel peace knowing you’re living according to God’s will.
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Deeper Connection: Emotional and mental intimacy grows without the confusion of premature bonding.
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Reduced Regret: There's no shame or guilt clouding your memories or your future.
The majority of men look at women like sexual objects that’s why so many of them cheat.
All they see is a nice body, a pretty face, and they want to conquer it. Thats why sex is just sex to them and nothing more they go on to the next person without hesitation and without caring if the person they were with created any type of feelings
But me? I see so much more when I look at you.
Yes, I’m absolutely attracted to you physically. I love everything about you
Not just your body, but the shape of your eyes, your lips, those two little moles I could stare at forever.
Your hair, the way you're so meticulous combing it so it looks just right
I notice it all. And I love it.
I love how no matter what you wear even when you have no clue what to wear, it just fits you. You always look so cute, so effortlessly beautiful.
Even the little things I love your cute snore. Your loud laughter and your cute giggle.
The way you’re shy to fart in front of me, or how you sometimes don’t want to kiss me in the morning
And yet, when I tell you I don’t care i just want to kiss you, you just love on me without limits.
That right there? That’s the real stuff. The kind of intimacy that has nothing to do with lust and everything to do with love.
Physically Yes, we’re incredibly compatible.
But that’s not what defines us. That’s not why I’m with you.
The reason I want my temple recommend is not just to be in good standing with the Church and with God.
It’s because I want to show you that my love for you goes far beyond desire.
I want you to feel that I love your soul. I love your personality. I love the essence of who you are.
This is why I write you poems.
Why I open up and pour my heart into words so you can see this isn’t just passion.
It’s purpose. It’s partnership. It’s a need to have you by my side
To support me, to laugh with me, to learn and grow with me,
To face life together not just as lovers, but as eternal companions.
You are not just someone I want to sleep with.
You are someone I want to wake up next to every day of my life.
I want to build a home with you.
To hold your hand through every joy, every trial, every season.
You are my peace, my stability, my safe place.
Everything I do to get closer to God I do it with you in mind.
Because I love you.
Not just now, but for forever and ever.
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